Birthdays.
It is a prevalent social custom in our society (a social construct, you could say) to share a wish of pleasant tidings onto those we care about on the day of their birth each year. It's a custom that I used to engage in more frequently earlier in life but as time went on and I left facebook things sort of shifted. It's there that I would frequently post birthday greetings to a large group of people, most of whom I don't really talk to on a day to day basis but felt the need and social pressure to answer the little notifications in the sidebar about Johnny's birthday despite not having seen him since before high school and so on. As time passed I sort of felt like it was worse to give such an empty wish to a person that I don't really talk to much outside of that. Thus, much like thank you cards and similar things, it started to feel like a cold, robotic formality rather than a warm, caring well-wishing.
I eventually stopped honoring most of the birthdays for people that I know. I don't often write in birthday threads or even comment on birthdays as much anymore, even for people that I'm pretty close to. I feel somewhat bad for not trying to brighten up the days of people I care about with a simple little message, but I don't want to be fake about a part of their and my life that I don't invest much of myself into anymore.
So it's pretty strange for me to be a number of words into a birthday thread, then, right?
I can't really explain why I feel compelled to write this while I don't even post all that often on the forums to begin with. Maybe it's because I'm using your birthday as an excuse to write something soft and heartfelt. Maybe it's because I'm going all in on some community meme just to try and make you smile. Maybe I genuinely am one of those hopeless romantic types. Maybe you're really just that precious to me.
Maybe none of those are important.
Maybe it's because I recently got the chance to spend time with you and keep relishing in warm memories of the short but sweet time we spent together, even when we were doing nothing at all.
I got to know a girl who was carefree but caring, nervous but excitable, a workaholic yet still just the right amount of bubbly fun.
I don't mean to make a goofy caricature of you but I do think it's important to recognize the people who are special to you sometimes, when even your actions don't feel like enough to show someone how much they mean to you.
Something you might hear me say once or twice is that we don't take enough time to tell the people we care about that we love them. In a whirlwind life experience where our time is short and we often take for granted those around us who mean so much to us, take time out of your lives to tell, show and live your love out loud for the people you care about.
I love you, Amethyst Liddell. ♡♡
Happy birthday.