Wolfox

It's not a stupid question tbh, and I don't think it's possible to give a definite answer to it.
If put very simply, your orientation describes who you feel attracted to - who you choose to actually date or sleep with would have no bearing on whether or not you could, technically, feel attraction to someone.

But at the same time, and that's why I think it's a good question, orientation often intertwines with identity, which is very complex and personal. There may be people for whom their attraction to a particular gender is so irrelevant that they don't even consider it a part of their identity.

To give an unfortunately prevalent example, there are women who could theoretically ID as bi/pan, but through traumatic experiences in their past feel entirely uncomfortable with dating men, and much prefer to refer to themselves as lesbians because they explicitly seek to date women.
(Now, there's something to be said about potentially addressing psychological issues one has, but that's 1) besides the point here and 2) not a stranger's business, so moving on.)

On the other hand, there's people who show a strong preference towards one gender, but do still entertain the possibility of dating people of different genders, and as such will use the bi/pan label regardless of their dating history so far.
 

Never forget, either, that the label you choose to identify with isn't set in stone for the rest of your life. If you were to feel that, for the current portion of your life, you would be best described as gay, then that's your party. There is no Gay Law Enforcement Team(TM) that'll barge into your kitchen at 2:46am because you suddenly decided you identify as bisexual instead.

As a matter of fact, understanding ourselves and discovering our identities is a source of confusion and struggle for many of us, and it's far from uncommon for LGBTQ+ people to switch between labels over time.
It's simply a result of living in cis- and heteronormative societies, so even those of us who weren't forced into a closet aren't guaranteed to have our shit figured out right off the bat.

I find it interesting to note, actually, that there's a significant subset of gay people who used to ID as bi/pan, before realizing that they were just still subconsciously influenced by heteronormativity - their perceived attraction to the other gender being a result of their upbringing and environment.
But no, that is not an excuse to tell bisexual people that our orientation is 'just a phase', and if you do, the Gay Law Enforcement Team WILL barge into your kitchen at 2:46am to lecture you sternly.

So... are you bi or gay? What do you think?

I'm personally hetero/half pan. Only interested in girls but caring more about the inside (and 100% pan for friends/platonic). It was just something I wondered because I sometimes think of thing like that

I’m a proud straight male. Girls are cute.

Don’t really care about dating, sex, or marriage, though.