A confession, if you will.

[Chrono-Explo]

So I have something to confess, who would have thought?

So yeah, most of you may know me as to be the sassy, wise-mouth, rather sarcastic and enjoys being goofy Explosms. I put a thing here or there, and never really share the inner workings of what's going on in my life, usually that I have a date here or there, or I'm having a bit to drink or I've done something in D&D. Well, here's the thing: I've kind of been suffering in silence in my own personal hell.

But I've overcome that, and I've come to grip the problem and have surpassed it. I've come to terms with the issue and have realised something: I'm genderfluid, but please let me explain.

There have been days where I have woken up feeling more female than male, more male than female, sometimes waking up as neither or waking up as both. Even though I usually identify by my sex, it doesn't mean I've been having gender issues on the side. i know I usually identify as androgynous, though I didn't feel as if that was right. Gender itself is a complex thing, especially when you realise there are over thirty seven different genders that one could use to identify themselves as. However, i don't go through the phantom phenomena that bi/tri/pangenders go through, and so I can't identify as one of them. As queer as it feels, i feel as if genderfluid is what best describes me.

I haven't really told anyone that I was going through this, nor that I had come to terms with it either. I felt that Reborn, who has seen me through my best and worst, who has seen me progress as a human being and has been there as I've matured as a person, should be the first to know of this progression (if that's the right word for it, I'm not overly sure).

But yes, hello. I'm Explosms. An occasionally male, occasionally female, sometimes neither or both, genderfluid English Reborn user..

[ZEL]

Ay, first of all, have a piece of cake and a hello~

Figuring out your gender can be a tricky thing; took me 18 years to finally figure mine out.

May I ask what you mean by "phantom phenomena"?
I'm a bigender person right here, and I'm not quite sure what you mean, or why it'd mean you cannot identify as any of the listed identities.

But that aside - if genderfluid is what you feel describes you the best, and thus what you're most comfortable using, power to you! Congrats on having it figured out.

I'm sure you won't be facing any acceptance problems here on Reborn; seems like a nice place to first come out on.

Doing the same thing IRL tends to prove a lot more trickier, because even among people who would generally be accepting, there's just so many who don't understand the term genderfluid (though explaining it can fix it), and, of course, those who don't believe it's a thing.

Personally I'm not even out as genderqueer offline except to two friends, because I know it'll just end in endless repeats of "ok but prove that bigender is real".

If you're planning to come out IRL, I'd salute you for having the guts. It's a huge step.

But see, let's just go back to that cake for now and be proud of you for having gotten this far~

[Abyssreaper99]

Well done for managing to find out/ confess your gender. I can't imagine how hard it must have been to go through the whole process of working it all out and then finding a way to tell some people so I give you kudos for that. As Ama said, power to you. All I'm going to say is wish you well if you do decide to let others know offline because it was hard for me to explain properly when I revealed myself as pan without them all saying 'Does that mean you'd go out with anything with a pulse?'. I would give you a cookie but I've eaten them all so sorry but again, good luck!