Unable to connect emotionally

[elfen]

I have a problem that I think probably arised sometime in the 7th grade. I have the inability to form any emotional bonds with anyone, not even family or close friends(I was able to before) But now. If they leave or get killed, I couldn't feel grief, I would only feel alone, and seek other companionship. Or if I move away, I wont miss them cause they are family, I would only feel alone, and again, search for other people I can relate to.

This goes for friends, I have a few close best friends, but if I move away, most likely as I get situated in a new town, and seek other friends, may it be at work or maybe college, I dunno.

So, I just do not care for people who are considered close to me. I mean I do care, but on emotional level, no. As humans, we need other people so we are not alone, thats about it. Anyone who can fill that void and is decent is what I would seek. But like other people, it would only be a mutual feeling of me wanting their company than virtuing being alone. Like with my best friends now, I know there is suppose to be a bond, but there really isn't since I know them and they know me, their company is welcomed a lot cause it keeps me occupied and not alone.

http://www.poetryfoundation.org/poem/173081

I refer to that poem, I like it a lot.

[Absol-lutelty awesome!]

I feel you man. I hit 7th grade and I have lost my ability of what I had left to socialize. After my recent social issues during 6th grade I had lost my feelings because I don't want to be emotionally hurt anymore.

[Maelstrom]

Let me tell you straight.

I hate that 'poem.'

It's all about despair and man's desperate attempt to remain in this world. That is only as natural as it would be for every other creature in the world. But it explicitly states that no love was left.

Do not delude yourself that you are extraordinary, that you have had exceptional experiences. That you have suffered. At most you have had to bear more indignities than your average, fellow human beings. Who live in first world countries. Can you not comprehend that we are not set above other animals in any way? Failings are the rule rather than the exception. To give up and and whine about an unsatisfactory fate marks one as yet another failing, weighing as much upon the others as the rest of the world you bemoan.

[elfen]

Let me tell you straight.

I hate that 'poem.'

It's all about despair and man's desperate attempt to remain in this world. That is only as natural as it would be for every other creature in the world. But it explicitly states that no love was left.

Do not delude yourself that you are extraordinary, that you have had exceptional experiences. That you have suffered. At most you have had to bear more indignities than your average, fellow human beings. Who live in first world countries. Can you not comprehend that we are not set above other animals in any way? Failings are the rule rather than the exception. To give up and and whine about an unsatisfactory fate marks one as yet another failing, weighing as much upon the others as the rest of the world you bemoan.

I never stated that I was a special snowflake in anyway, nor that i am above others. That is far from what I believe in myself. So there is no delusion that I am far superior than any other person. Suffered? I think I have suffered. Its incredulous that you would assume such drastic events that you know nothing of. Sure other children get physically abused, rapped or worse things. But there is more to suffering than just that. A persons mental state is a frail thing and things can build up on a psyche of a person to cause such trifles. Me? I have suffered mentally, quite a bit in my life. So do not spout non-sense on who has suffered or not. IT may not breach the severity of others who get physically abused, or sexually abused but trauma can still affect someone regardless.

I am wanting to be an inspiring astrophysicists, i know the concept of failure, that only new things can come from them. Give up? I talked of no things. I only expressed my ideas on my view of myself. The inability to form any emotional connections with other peers around me due to my events that has occured in the past years. I have not showed any motion about whining, and I do not believe that fate has anything to do in the world. What have i failed, must I ask? You write it as if I am going to commit suicide. Thats to much of a trifle to do such things :/

[Cowtao]

Well i'm gonna be frankly blunt with you.

You have broken your mind off both in the right way and in a mentality form.

A lot of us have had a lot of bad happen to us. Physically, Mentally, and Emotionally. The thing is, all of these connect into one big form of damage known as suffering. Your grief isn't just emotionally, it has probably effected in more places than one. If you are beaten by a bully you don't just feel angst of physical pain. You feel Emotionally and Mentally broken for being bested by someone else. That's the real way the mind of pain works. Course you know that but that's what we were saying.

In part of the earlier comment, we weren't saying that you were commit suicide nor does anyone want to think of you or anyone in that way. Moving frankly sucks and a lot of people know that. You would be surprised at the amount of times people on this site have moved away, been deported, served for military purposes. Yet, despite all the obstacles we are all still here because places like Reborn, and or other sites have always been there with our best friends for years. This site or another site could be another bridge as this could be a place where emotions could develop. Sure you may still move but a constant is this site if you put your effort out into having an emotional bond with someone here. Hell, it couldn't be this site if you choose not to. People discourage bonding on the internet as it being a curse or an a exaggeration of emotions. I say it's justified because you never know what's going to happen on the internet.

You'll either clip your wings, or you'll find some other way to soar.

And yes. I'm aware that is the most cheesy line ever but work with me. >:I

Edited December 15, 2013 by Cowtao